Tag: Luther Ingram

I Don’t Want to be Right!

Why are some women attracted to married men?

If loving you is wrong I don’t wanna be right
If being right means being without you
I’d rather live a wrong doing life
Your mama and daddy say it’s a shame
It’s a downright disgrace
Long as I got you by my side
I don’t care what your people say

Your friends tell you there’s no future
In loving a married man
If I can’t see you when I want to
I’ll see you when I can
If loving you is wrong I don’t wanna be right
If loving you is wrong I don’t wanna be right

Excerpt from “If Loving You is Wrong” by Luther Ingram

I felt the urge to blog about this subject after reading
another blogger’s post, Women Who Pursue Married Men

The Women Who Pursue Married Men | Ivy says.

and then the chorus to this song resonating
in my mind for several days.

My research revealed a few reasons and much  speculation regarding why some women pursue married men (and some men pursue
married women).

The top reason I found was NSA sex (no strings attached),
there are both women and men out there who simply want NSA sex and the best
place to get this from is a married person – you know they are going home to
their spouse; the second most cited reason for pursuing a married man was the
woman has commitment issues (and maybe even low self-esteem) and there is safety  in having an affair with a married man – no commitment, he’s already married;  and the third most popular reason cited was the idea that this is a happy woman, is married to a “good man”, I want that – in other words, a deliberate home  wrecker. Other miscellaneous reasons were, some people just enjoy ruining other  people’s lives and married men don’t need to be trained.

Are you wrong to give your love
To a married man
And am I wrong trying to hold on
To the best thing I ever had
If loving you is wrong I don’t wanna be right
If loving you is wrong I don’t wanna be right

Excerpt from “If Loving You is Wrong” by Luther Ingram

My question is, “whatever happened to the bond that women
had – the sisterhood of women?” There was a time when a wedding band actually  meant something; that this man was off-limits – he is married. Now-a-days you  hear of predatory women who actually enjoy pursuing married men. How sad is  this? I know it takes two to tangle, and the man is as much to blame as the woman  in the affair, but in the words of my grandmother, “chile [woman] you cannot do the same thing that a man does, because you will be looked at differently. A man can run around and have multiple women and it be fine, if you do it, you will be called a whore.” Similar to the women who pursue married men; do we have a name for them? Of course we do. What about the men who pursue married women? They’re not talked about as much.

Is this fair? No. Is this the truth? Yes. We live in a society with a double standard. I don’t make the rules, I just live by them.