Real Talk w/Terry

You’ve Been Hacked

HackerAre cheaters getting what they deserve?! Until a few days ago, I had never heard of Ashley Madison; which is apparently the premiere site for spouses who want to cheat. The Canadian based company’s slogan is “Life is short. Have an affair”. I did some research into this company and learned that their most popular day for new sign-ups last year was the day after Father’s Day and their second most popular day for sign-ups was the day after Mother’s Day. Wow! Read more…

5 Books Every Single Woman Should Read

I love to read. Every since I can remember, I’ve always had a love of books and a love for reading. One of my favorite places has always been the public library – I’m a nerd, I know! During my season of singleness, I had a lot of time to read and spend time in the library and book stores. At one point, I committed my reading to focus on books about marriage and being a wife. I read many books, the following have a special place in my memory bank and I highly recommend them to single women who desire to be married.

 Book_ThePowerOfAPrayingWife  The Power of a Praying Wife by Stormie Omartian

This book is jam-packed full of advice on praying for specific areas of your husband’s life; areas such as: his work, his sexuality, his temptations, his mind, his fears, and his purpose. If you’re single, you may be wondering, “why am I praying for my husband? I don’t have one yet.” That’s the point, to pray for your husband before he manifest. This is putting faith into action, calling those things that be not as if they were.

  Book_MakingYourHusbandFeelLoved Making Your Husband Feel Loved Compiled by Betty Malz

This book is a collaboration between 20 Christian women who share their secrets for a fresh and exciting marriage. Some of the chapters include: “Little Things Mean a Lot,” “Respect Him,” “Having Fun Together,” and “Encourage Him”. A constant theme in this book is just as the title suggest, “make your husband feel loved”.

Book_LiberatedThroughSubmission   Liberated Through Submission by P.B. Wilson

When I was single, this book was one of my favorites. I’ve read it several times over the years. When you mention the “S” word to many single or married women, it is often met with negative backlash. However, this book opened my eyes to the fact that submission is not a sign of weakness, but of power. And submission is the key to a fulfilling marriage – submission to God’s Word first and foremost.

Book_KnightInShiningArmor   Knight in Shining Armor by P.B. Wilson

This one, another one of my favorites when I was single; I’ve read it several times as well. One of my cousins gave me this book and after reading it, I was compelled to take a vow of celibacy and began preparing myself for my future husband. This book started me on my journey to being a wife.

Cover1   No Longer a Bridesmaid! by Terry Cato

I have a special affection for this title since Yours Truly authored it. I was led to write No Longer a Bridesmaid! after attending a marriage enrichment class at my church. My Pastor’s wife, who knew my testimony of being single, celibate, and believing God for a husband for seven years prior to getting married asked me to share my testimony with the single ladies who were in attendance. On the drive home, the concept for the book was conceived.

There are many books out there both Christian and secular that gives wonderful advice to single ladies and men. When I was single, I don’t remember there being so many books devoted to singles – perhaps that shortage is what fueled the abundance of resources that is now on the market. The aforementioned books don’t begin to even scratch the surface of what is out there. I merely wanted to share a few of my favorites.

Happy reading!

Interview: Pastor Chad Johnson

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Founder: Elevate Ministries

Title: Team Chaplain, Pittsburgh Steelers

Spring Chaplain, LA Dodgers

Founder & President, Elevate Intl.

Degree in Christian Ministries

I recently had the opportunity to sit down with a long-time friend and brother in the ministry, Pastor Chad Johnson to discuss his work in the ministry with professional athletes and his state of singleness.

Occupation: Pastor Chad (PCJ) is the Chaplain for the NFL’s Pittsburgh Steelers and MLB’s LA Dodgers. He provides pastoral services for the sports teams in addition to life coaching for players, their families and administration. He leads player and coach bible studies, and team chapel before games. Some of his other duties include: conducting couple’s bible study, performing baptismal, making hospital visits, personal prayer, one-on-one discipleship, and mentoring.

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Couple of the Week – June Recap

These are the lovely couples that were featured in June as Couple of the Week. They all shared great marriage nuggets and wisdom.

Darryl-EveLynnDarryl & Eve-Lynn

Darryl and Eve-Lynn just celebrated three years of marital bliss on May 26, 2015.

Word of Wisdom to Couples: “If there is advice to be given to married couples, it would be this, first follow the fruit of the Spirit. Then listen – listen to what is being said and how it is being said.”

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Michael & Alice

Married August 19, 2000

Michael and Alice have been married for 14 years. Their words of wisdom for a newly married couple: “I have discovered that understanding my personality type helps me communicate effectively with my husband. Wow! I should’ve taken that test 11 years ago! I urge newly-weds to save themselves years of frustration, communication breakdowns and personality clashes by taking a personality test sooner rather than later. Even if your spouse won’t commit to taking the test, take it for yourself and learn about personality dynamics and be flexible to prevent severe taxation on your marriage.”

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Pastors Andre & Faye Butler

The couple recently celebrated 39 years of marriage this past April. They stated, “the key to our success [in marriage] is persevering during the hard times which allows us to enjoy the good times now.”

If you would like to be featured as our Couple of the Week, email info@terrycato.com and put Couple of the Week in the email header. Include a picture of you and your spouse and 2-3 sentences sharing a piece of advice or wisdom with other couples.