Real Talk w/Terry (formerly Relationships-411)

NEW NAME-NEW LOOK-NEW FEEL

Hi Everyone!

First and foremost, thank you for your continued support of the Relationships-411 blog. I’m excited to officially announce that through much thought, prayer and supplication we have a new name, a new look and a new feel. The new name for our blog is Real Talk w/Terry. This has been a long time coming.

Just prior to writing my first book, No Longer a Bridesmaid, I started blogging about relationships. Then after publishing No Longer a Bridesmaid in 2013, my platform and brand expanded to include a TV show, Real Talk w/Terry that launched in 2015. The TV show started out as an extension of the blog and was inspired by my book. After several years of managing both a relationship blog and a relationship & lifestyle TV show, I made the decision to re-brand the blog to coincide with the show which has continued to grow these past several years.

The Relationships-411 Facebook community is still alive and thriving. If you do not follow the Relationships-411 Facebook page, please do so and stay in the loop with all of our zanny, witty, and funny relationship posts and discussions.

This blog will now share content that is synonymous with the Real Talk w/Terry TV show that airs Sundays, at 1:00 PM on Comcast 15 in Silicon Valley. Thank you for your continued support and we look forward to continuing this journey with all of you.

Do You Know Who Your Family Member is Dating?

By: Alice Curt

When someone in your family starts dating, you want to know if he/she is making the right choice and their safety is not compromised. But with technology enabled modern dating, that can be difficult to guarantee.

Online Dating
Nowadays, it’s not uncommon for people to meet and form relationships online. In fact, Esquire mentioned that young adults and 55-65 year olds are the most active users of online dating services. As this convenient way of meeting people started to take off, new dangers have also appeared. There are people who create fake profiles to scam others. Harassment is also a real risk as well as identity theft or fraud. These potential scenarios make it hard not to ask about a family member’s dating life. That’s why Relationships-411 previously listed apps that guardians should know about.

What To Do
In spite of our protective nature, it’s important that you give your loved one enough space. Reality-based dating shows have influenced us to be curious of other people’s romantic lives. The Bachelor, for instance, is still running strong after 22 seasons. The British series Love Island is another program with the same goal, as contestants in the show aim to find romance. Ladbrokes notes that the latest season’s most loved couple are Jack Fincham and Dani Dyer. They are a perfect example of having limits on prying into a family member’s relationship. Dani’s father, actor Danny Dyer, anonymously asked about the private details of his daughter’s relationship on the radio. Thankfully, Dani didn’t kiss and tell. If shows like the aforementioned still pique our interest in strangers’ dating lives, it’s not hard to understand why people would want to know about their loved ones’ relationships, especially if it will help keep them safe.

US News suggests striking a balance between talking and listening, making sure not to impose your own feelings on your loved one. Trust their judgment and that you’ve taught them well about the dangers of modern dating. Unless the person they’re dating is outright putting them in harm’s way, just be supportive of who they choose to be with.

About Alice: Tech enthusiast. Gamer. Blogger. Music Lover.

Question of the Day

Would you leave your dream job and move to be with your true love?

I almost did this in my twenties; leave my dream job in sports and entertainment and move across the country to be with my College Sweetheart. I got cold feet and continued to pursue my career. The relationship didn’t work out.

Another One Bites the Dust!

You made it through Red Tuesday, which was one week before Valentines Day; and the day when you were most likely to get dumped. And you made it through Valentines Day, now what?!

I personally am not a fan of Valentines Day, I respect the effort to set aside a day for love, but honestly shouldn’t we all be more conscious about showing the one we love how much we admire and care foValentines boxr them at any time? Do we really need for society to “set aside” a day for us? Many say NO. And for that reason, they purposely rebel and don’t recognize Valentines Day at all.

If this is you, I suggest the following to keep the love and romance alive 24/7, 365:

1) Random Acts of Kindness. When your mate least expect it, surprise them with something nice. If they like flowers – send their favorite floral arrangement to their job or have a nice bouquet waiting for them when they get home from work; if they like the spa – give them a spa certificate, a gift card to their favorite coffee shop or department store, the list goes on, be creative;

2) Date Nights. I can not stress enough the importance of not just date nights, but a couple spending quality time together; not talking about the kids or the bills. But sharing your heart with your mate – highs, lows, disappointments, accomplishments, etc.;

3) Words of Affirmation. Saying nice, kind words to your mate is gold. A little goes a long way. Your words should be authentic and from the heart – not even mushy. But simple affirmations like “I appreciate you”, “You look very nice today”, “I like the cologne/perfume you’re wearing”, and “thank you for _____”;

4) A hug and a kiss. What man or woman doesn’t appreciate an unexpected hug and kiss? This is a simple way to show your love and appreciation for your mate –  displays of affection cost nothing but effort; and

5) Listen to them. This is easier said than done for most of us. Often time, our mate simply want to be heard. There is no charge associated with listening. I was taught, we were given two ears and one mouth for a reason – we should be listening twice as much as we talk. Selah.

Finally, be random and opt for the surprise element. But remember to KISS: keep it simple.

No Longer a Bridesmaid!

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This is Bre. She had been in a relationship for years; however, after reading Terry Cato’s book, No Longer a Bridesmaid! she decided to examine both the dynamics of her relationship and assess herself as a future wife.

Through the book, she gained both romantic and spiritual guidance which gave her inspiration to prepare herself to become a wife. As a result of applying Terry’s advice, Bre married the love of her life and just recently celebrated 2 years of marital bliss.

Get your copy today.

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Relationship Hot Topics

As we approach the season of love, (Christmas through Valentine’s Day) where a lot of couples historically get engaged, if I was a betting person – I would bet that half of the couples who will get engaged and then married do not discuss these critical topics BEFORE getting married:

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  1. Finances – who will manage the finances, how will bank accounts be set-up and managed;
  2. Sex – their view on sex (frequency, preferences/likes, dislikes);
  3. Children – how many they will have and/or how they will raise them;
  4. Faith or lack of – their belief system and commitment to their faith;
  5. Career aspirations/dreams/goals – some people actually talk about their career aspirations with their future spouse, but most fail to discuss their dreams and wants.

If this is you – you have become recently engaged to be married, talk about everything. Don’t just cover the obvious basics: the past, family dynamics, and failed relationships. Discuss sensitive issues, such as your spending habits and view on money/finances; how many children you want and how you will discipline them, how you will introduce them to your faith, etc.; and don’t be afraid to share your dreams with your future spouse.

Communication is KEY in marriage. The foundation for good communication should be laid long before you say “I do”.

 

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